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Be prepared to give your partner their best thrill ever with your best casual kiss. 'Casual' in your case means plenty of preparation before hand so you don't have to worry and can concentrate on making it look casual. If you prepare for it correctly, nature is on your side and will cause an explosion of head-spinning brain chemicals to instantly surge through your partner. With the appropriate pre-planning, correct environment and body language you are bound to succeed with your 'casual' kiss and make it turn out fantastic!

Kissing is a physical activity that affects both the old brain limbic system and the new brain cerebral cortex. The old brain is where heart rate, breathing, perspiration and many other bodily functions are controlled. Most of these functions are devoted to survival and sex. This old brain center is revved-up by a kiss and starts unconscious preparations for the body to have sex. (Unless this is a goodbye kiss tossed at your grandparent!)

A kiss most likely causes the female new brain cognitive centers to think about the romantic beauty of the moment and significance of the relationship at this point. The male new brain is most likely thinking about how good the female would look and feel naked!

How to prepare for the 'casual' sweet kiss

A healthy, clean body is very stimulating and that requires careful and serious on-going maintenance. No junk food, no cigarettes and plenty of good drinking water daily are essential for a good tasting mouth for both you and your partner. Of course dental hygiene (flossing, brushing and dentist visits) is important, as well as skin and hair care to ensure stimulation for the eyes too.

What the woman wants

The female brain and body are turned-on by a beautiful environment and relationship. Romance over a period of time is a very important part of the preparation for the perfect kiss. The proper romantic lead-in to that moment of contact fills her hormone tanks to the brim. When the actual kiss does come, all her tanks empty in an instant and pour powerful brain chemicals into her blood stream. These chemicals trigger off huge changes in all areas of her body preparing her for her biological destiny. It is only her new brain cerebral cortex with its power of rational thought that keeps her passion under control.

What the man wants

At the same time, most healthy men are picturing in their mind how she would look and feel naked.

Body language that facilitates the kiss

Most often the kiss is done without any negotiation or discussion on the subject ahead of time. If you have to discuss how to do it then it is 'research' and not for fun. Nearly all the communication is done with body language. Also there may be a question as to who should initiate the kiss and that depends on the culture, training and beliefs of the partners involved. In most situations the man is the pursuer and the woman is watching him carefully while deciding to allow or stop his advances into her space and/or body.

The clearest signal to send when ready to kiss is to get in position. That means, be facing closer than normal while looking into your partner's eyes. Start the move with a soft, caring look on your face, then touch hands or hug upper body and watch for a receptive response. This is especially important: Watch your partner carefully for mirroring moves that match yours. If he or she is moving away, FORGET IT for now. But if all seems welcome, move your face slowly forward and look softly into your partner's eyes. As you slowly (and romantically) move in, aim your lips for their lips, with a little head turn to avoid a nose crash.

Close your eyes before your lips meet (this is an art form), relax your body (Soft bodies feel really nice!) and breathe. Your breath will be filled with pheromones and will stimulate your partner even more. Soft, sensual lip texture is important so relax them and let them even slidea little and even nibble on your partner's, but don't get too wet and slobbery.

The first kiss is really a test run to see if it is going to be fun and if more kissing is welcome. With a little practice (a lot of practice is more fun!) you may enjoy spending longer periods exploring your partner's mouth and face, or even other soft body parts. (Ear lobes are a delicacy but watch out for the hardware.)

Touching or caressing your partner's head, hair and back is a nice bonus for you both. The brain chemicals by now have greatly increased the sensitivity in all parts of the body. Just about any touching feels really good but watch for signs of welcome first. Some people even get pleasure from slaps and rough treatment that normally cause pain. However, don't try the rough stuff without a complete understanding of what is acceptable and desired! This you need to talk about.

What follows the kissing?

Kissing for females is not only great fun for the body but also it stimulates the mind with an increased feeling of emotional and physical closeness. This fits nicely with the female's DNA need for creation of a family and protection for her and offspring. For most women, kissing is the most stimulating physical activity short of intercourse. In the mean time the man is still thinking about how she would look and feel naked. To most men, kissing is upper persuasion for a lower invasion.

Never underestimate the power of the perfect kiss. Get it right, and the rest will fall into place.

It has been theorized that a woman decided within five minutes of meeting a man whether or not she will have sex with him. Possibly true, but there is one catch. Most women I know, myself included, may initially decide we'll have sex with a guy, but when we find out he's a bad or a mediocre kisser, we change our minds entirely. We decide we will never have sex with this guy. He won't even get asked for a nightcap, much less for breakfast the next morning. As our lips part while we stand on the doorstep, we will announce that we have an early-morning meeting or (if you were really awful) that we're actually already married to someone else.

What we will never, ever say is, "God, you're a lousy kisser. I was going to have sex with you until just this moment." This is one of the ways in which men and women differ. If a man is very attracted to a woman but discovers she's a bad or mediocre kisser, he'll probably have sex with her anyway if presented with the opportunity. A woman can't get past a bad kiss. (Unless, of course, she's a horrible kisser herself, but we're not talking about those women here.) Experience has shown most women that a bad kiss only spells trouble down the road, so to speak. After all, if he hasn't mastered kissing and fails to see its sensual possibilities, what hope is there for, ahem, anything else?

The disappointment of a bad kiss is a recurring topic of discussion among a group of single women I run with in the park several times a week. "It tuens into a fabric softener thing," says Nora, a blond from Dallas, when describing the previous night's date. "You know, where the guy kisses you and it's so bad but you've got to finish it up so your mind wanders and you start wondering if you have enough fabric softener to do two loads of laundry the next day?" She laughs. "So I'm thinking about that, and the guy says, "Wow! You're very passionate."

Oh, the egos we would crush if men could hear the post-mortems. If any guys happen to be running with us, they immediately demand to know what exactly constitutes a bad or good kisser. So we tell them about the all-purpose litmus test: A bad kisser, reguardless of whether he likes to secrete a gallon of drool or waggle his head like a dog menacing a bone, seems to be simultaneously thinking: " When can we get to step two? And three and four? Is she aroused yet? can I put my hand on her breast now?" He sees kissing as the next step on a carnal quest. The good kisser, however, sees the kiss as the destination itself. He kisses as if he will never do anything else with this woman, as if he never wants to do anything else with this woman. He kisses as if this is what he's been dying to do for years and he wants to savor every moment. I guarentee you that this is when the woman decides there will be other activities on the agenda.

The first thing to remember: When in Doubt, Go Slowly. make that first kiss slow and gentle and easy. While you may want to demonstrate that you're a cauldron of seething desire, save that for later, when you're both sufficiently warmed up. In the meantime, resist the urge to mash your face against hers so hard your teeth collide and she ends up with brush burns from your stubble. One woman in our running group actually passed out during a particularly bad kiss of this sort, when the man pressed his face to hers so tightly he blocked off her nose with his cheek, mistook her thrshing for passion, and suddenly felt her body go limp. "i was out for maybe thrity seconds," she says. "Fortunately, he had me in a bear hug, so I didn't hit the group. Of course, he thought I passed out because the kiss was so good." This is what's known as the Harrison Ford School of Making Out. Watch him in the movies,a nd watch his costar's face get twisted out of shape from the sheer force. this is also why they're panting afterward. It's not from desire, it's oxygen deprivation. So the second thing to remember while kissing is to make sure she can still breathe through her nose.

There are other movie stars who perpetuate bad kissing styles. There's the Tom Cruise Method (as seen in Top Gun), whereby his tongue is already slithering out before he's met her lips. This is also referred to as the Lizard-King Style, and once lip-locked, it may also feature the rather grotesque tongue-insterted-rapidly-in-and-out. Most women do not cherish the idea of kissing a large anaconda, which is what this must be similar to. Equally unappealing is when the guy's tongue seems to be on a thorough search for any food trapped between the woman's molars. This is her tongue's job, not yours. The only response possible is for the woman to open her mouth wide and remain motionless while he finishes his routing, a posture that calls to mind trips to the dentist.

Like good sex and great dancing, any tongue action should involve a give-and-take, with both parties allowed the opportunity for interaction in a saliva-laden minuet. Get into a groove with this, and every now and then you may want to stop for a short time while still joined at thelips. Like being on a dance floor and suddenly holding your partner motionless, it can have the galvanizing effect of heightening the sensation. this is ideally practiced in places like a dark booth in a dive bar with a great jukebox. Just make sure your sleeve doesn't catch fire from the candle on the table.

So although no one wants a tongue completely jammed down her throat, neither do we want its exact opposite, as favored by Woody Allen, one of the screen's all-time-worst kissers. Check out the last scene in Hannah and Her Sisters, and you'll see him pecking away at Dianne Wiest. This Road-runner-eats-birdseed style of dry, repeated kisses accompanied by inordinately loud smacky sounds is not what any woman fantasizes about--even if she's weird enough to fantasize about kissing Woody Allen. The occasional smacky sound is inevitable and can exciting, but go easy on the moaning and groaning. Its sounds fake at best and, at worst, like an unconscious habit, like tuneless whistling.

Daniel Day-Lewis belongs in the kissing hall of fame for Best Use of Hands. He gently caresses his costar's face and touches her hair, a model of how hands can increase the erotic pleasure of the moment. Bear in mind the hands should not be used to prevent the woman from going anywhere or to clamp her head into one uncomfortable position. Remember most women like men to toy gently with their hair. After decades of bad press about sticky hairsprays and helmet hair, most of us have been using products to enhance "touchability" and are favoring hairstyles that look good a bit tousled. So go ahead and touch hair. And quit using all that sticky hairspray and goo so we can go back to touching yours.

Finally, I offer this suggestion: Try opening your eyes. I once cautiously opened my eyes while kissing and saw a pair of brown eyes staring back at me, which made the kiss even better because it became more intimate. Some people find this to be an impossible task (like sneezing with your eyes open), but while the prevailing belief is that we must try to block out all other sensations, you may find that kissing with your eyes open is the sensual equivalent of making love with the lights on. And if you're going to be kissing for several hours in a make-out bar, it's a good idea to peek periodically at the where-abouts of your drinks, her purse, and your wallet.

First dates are always loaded with pressure. It is with no small wonder having the first kiss can be as over whelming. Gabby Love at offer key signs to identify the signs that he or she is ready to take the relationship to the next level. 

The sign the woman is interested in a kiss are as follows:

1. She is facing you with her arms down and body is relaxed.
2. She tilts her head upward toward you.
3. She appears not to be in a hurry to end the date.
4. She has her mouth parted.
5. She is gazing into your eyes.
   

The sign that she is not interested in a kiss are as follows:

1. Her jaws are clamped shut.
2. She is messing around with her keys.
3. She won't look you in the eyes.
4. She shakes your hand and says "Good Night."
5. Her chin looks like it is glued to her chest.
   

The signs that he is interested are as follows:

1. He has positioned himself between the woman and the door.
2. He appears to be acting nervous.
3. He doesn't appear to be interested in leaving.
4. He has his head tilted upward.
5. He continually licks his lips.

The signs that he isn't interested are as follows: 

1. He walks the woman straight to the car or door without hesitation.
2. He keeps his hands in his pockets.
3. He continually looks at his feet.
4. He avoids eye cont at all times.

The above signs will assist one in not having an embarrassing situation while on a date. Just relax and pay attention at all times.

If there's one thing that's more irritating than anything else, it is to be with a gorgeous guy who turns out to be a lousy kisser. Kissing is not something that is taught - though practice does make perfect... but you either love it or you don't. Some guys slobber a lot and some guys are into dry kisses. Time out, for them. Guys, if she doesn't enjoy kissing you, you can forget any intimacy.

The bad kisser usually goes under the mistaken impression that if some women have actually put up with his kiss, so should every woman he kisses! And worse still, he will assume that an excess of everything works! Aggressive, lots of saliva, and lots of tongue play. Then there is the opposite type of guy who will not take the first step, nor will he show any participation.

So, guys, how can you tell that you are a terrible kisser? Here are some pointers:

• If you're the sort who knocks your teeth against hers constantly, it hurts quite a bit. And you can bet she will be dreading the thought of you handling the rest of her.

• If you pour saliva into her mouth, she is definitely not going to find it sexy, she's going to hate it. Remember the wetness belongs elsewhere!

• If you tend to keep exploring the insides of her mouth with your tongue, you're going to remind her of her last trip to the dentist - and I can tell you that thought has no place in this situation.

• If you are the awfully boring type who makes it a routine to smack your lips, open your mouth, and rapidly enter and exit your partner's mouth with your tongue - she's not going to enjoy it.

• If you lock your mouth with hers, pour saliva into her mouth and gag her with your tongue - she's going to be struggling for her breath - for survival, not pleasure.

• The grossest of all bad kissers is the one with bad oral hygiene! You can just take it for granted that no woman will savor being kissed by a guy with bad breath. And if he happens to be the wet sort to kisser, ugh!

When a woman never initiates the kissing, you can be sure that you are a bad kisser, as far as she is concerned. Women are affectionate creatures and they like to show it - and if you are a good kisser, she will tell you. If you are a bad kisser, she'll avoid you! Some women are good-natured enough to show you how to kiss, some will gently ask you whether you've kissed anyone before.

These are indications that you are a bad kisser. Some women will diplomatically avoid kissing you and go for the other areas, but this is quite rare, since the general contention is - good kissers usually make good lovers. The moral of this story is, you must not lose heart if you are a bad kisser. You can be trained. Practice. Be open-minded and learn.

Kissing is a major part of any meaningful intimate relationship, and I can tell you – it almost always decides if the relationship will go any further than kissing or rather, how far it will go! There’s nothing worse than a bad kisser who gives the impression that he is just waiting to get more intimate. A great kisser usually acts as if the kiss is the main thing, there’s really nothing else he cares about and he intends to enjoy every moment of this kiss. That’s the sort of thing women love.

There’s no need for speed

One of the nicest things about an enjoyable kiss is the slow going. It is mandatory to start gently and make it easy to respond to. The man might be raring to show his passion, but he must simply hold himself in check. Both must be turned on enough to take the next step. But back to the kiss, teeth to teeth when face-to-face is a no-no. Just imagine being bruised by that stubble! Pressing his face too close to hers and blocking off her breathing is not a good idea. 

For kissing to be really exciting, the tongue play should be give and take. Both must coordinate in a way that is complementary. In fact, stopping once in a while with lips locked can make it so much more intimate! Eye contact is another thing. It is quite in tune with etiquette to keep the eyes open and look into hers while kissing; this can be quite a turn on.

Touch and feel

Next, what about the hands? Most movies show the hero caressing his partner’s hair and face – heightening the sensation of the kiss. Many women enjoy their hair being gently played with while kissing. There is something quite erotic about it. Women also like to run their fingers through the man’s hair, but not if its laden with hairspray or gel. Ugh! Going natural works every time. 

Some men hold the woman’s face. Softly is great, but not so the woman is uncomfortable and cant move if she wants to. She should be panting because she’s enjoying the kiss, not because she is smothered and wants to break away.

Here are some kissing tips:

There’s nothing worse than bad breath to mess up your kiss - especially if you ate garlic or onions. Always chew a mouth freshening gum or mint so that your mouth stays sweet and she can enjoy your kiss. It’s awful to be a non-smoker and kiss a smoker. So try not to smoke just before kissing. Pay attention to lip care – its not just women whose lips must be soft - this goes for guys as well. 

Monotonous kisses tend to be a drag –she can’t wait to move away. Be intense and gentle in turns, alternate short kisses with long ones and whisper to her. Let your hands move, softly caressing. 

And finally the only way to be a great kisser is with practice. Have fun!

When you kiss a girl, she initially expects you to make the first move. You lean in for the kiss and when you are nearly touching her lips, she leans in. This gives the girl a good feeling because you are kissing her.

What guys want is quite the opposite. Guys love the girl to lose control and make the move to kiss. It is not the action of getting kissed by the girl that guys want, rather the fact that the girl wants them enough to initiate it.

Getting a girl into a kissing frenzy

A kissing frenzy is where the girl loses all control and the only thing on her mind is kissing her guy. The best way to cause this is to tease using a series of light kisses.

• Start by kissing her slowly and very lightly. Do not use any tongue.

• Gradually kiss her with more intensity, making it seem as if you are loosing control.

• Give her some tongue and give her french kisses with passion.

• Pull back.

• Give her a small peck on the cheek.

• Pull back again.

If you do this right, she really should want more kisses from you now. Your girl will now proceed to lean in and she will be the one kissing you.