Technology

• She is more interested in her cell phone than you
• You can not access her cell phone or computer
• There is odd computer or cell phone activity
• There is no browser history on her computer
• There are some phone calls she never takes when you are around
• There are strange numbers on her cell phone
• She uses her cell phone much less than she used to, and her friends have a different cell phone number for her
• She has a second cell phone
• She has “single” on her social media profiles
• She does not call you often
• The same guys like and comment on her photos on social media
• She has updated her profile on a dating site
• She hides the computer screen when you are nearby
• She is hard to contact when out of the house
• She seems rushed when you contact her, but relaxed when she contacts you.

Appearance

• She has started buying more clothes than she used to
• You never see her wearing her sexiest clothes
• Her sexiest clothes are in the washing pile when you do not see her wearing them
• She starts caring more about her appearance, especially when she is going out without you.
• Her use of perfume changes

Social

• She does not have anything to do with your family
• She does not have anything to do with your friends
• She is always busy doing something without you
• She is always too busy to do something with you
• You are spending less time together
• She wants to know where you are when she is not with you
• You do not know where she is, when she is not with you
• She encourages you to spend time socialising with other people
• She is always unavailable at night time
• She often goes to bars without you for a girls night out
• She is still friends with ex-boyfriends
• She socialises with many guys
• She mentions a “new friend” that you never meet

Attitude

• She stops paying attention to you
• She does not care about you and the things that you do as much as she used to
• She starts to nag you more that she did in the past
• She avoids questions and replies in a defensive manner
• She does not seem happy when she is around you
• You have less of an emotional connection with her
• Conversations with her seem strained and contrived
• She is more argumentative and critical for no reason

Actions

• She has sex with you less than she used to
• She takes a shower straight away when arriving home
• She does not talk about her love for you any more
• She flirts with other guys
• Her eyes often drift to other guys
• You are told she is cheating
• You are shown photos of her with another guy
• She no longer tells you about her day
• She does not talk about plans for the future with you
• She tries to make you jealous in order to get your attention
• She starts new interests or hobbies that you did not expect
• She leaves earlier or arrives home later than she used to
• She gets called into work at odd times or works late
• She goes on many business trips

Giveaways

• She smells like a guy
• She comes home with a guys shirt on that is not yours
• Her friends get your name wrong
• Your feelings tell you that she is being unfaithful
• You have enough time without her to read internet pages like this one
• You start looking online for signs of a cheating girlfriend

 

What do you think? Do you know of other possible signs?

Asking for a second date can be just as nerve racking as asking for a first date. The fear of rejection when you ask for a first date still exists to a certain degree when you are asking for a second date. This is because you may be uncertain whether or not your perception of the first date  was shared by your date. If you aren’t positive that they had a good time on the first date then you may worry that they will not welcome the opportunity to go ona second date with you.

Laying the groundwork for a second date at the conclusion of the first date is one way to make asking for a second date easier. If you enjoyed the first date and suspect that your date did also, you can try suggesting a second date as you are saying your goodbyes on the first date. Be honest with your date about how you had a good time on this first date and would like to continue the relationship by going on a second date. Hopefully your date will also be honest in their response and if they had a good time as well, they will mostly likely be open to the idea of a second date. You do not have to establish the details of the second date immediately but finding out if your date is even interested in a second date can make it much easier to call them later in the week to officially ask them out on a second date and suggest specific details for the date.

Sending flowers as a thank you for the first date can provide the opportunity to ask for a second date. If you are interested in a second date, you might consider sending flowers a few days after your first date and including a note with the flowers that tells your date that you had a great time on the first date and would love the opportunity to have a second date. Not only is this a sweet way to say thank you for the first date but also it increases your chances of having your date agree to go on a second date with you. The other great part about this technique is that prevents you from having to ask for the second date face to face. This is especially helpful in the situation where you are not completely positive that your date enjoyed them as much as you did on the first date.

A similar way to ask for a second date is to send your date a souvenir that is intended to remind them of your first date. For example if you attended a concert on your first date, you might consider sending your date a copy of the band’s latest CD along with the ticket stubs from the concert. You can conclude a card with the gift that tells your date what a great time you had on the first date and how you hope to have the opportunity for a second date.

You can also use a casual get together as an opportunity to ask for a second date. You might consider asking your date to meet you for coffee one afternoon. The two of you can discuss your previous date over coffee and you can take this opportunity to ask your partner out on an official second date. Although some may argue that getting together for coffee is a second date, you can look at that as kind of a test for whether or not your partner will say yes to another official date. Chances are that if they are willing to meet you for coffee than they would be willing to go on a second date with you. Meeting to talk about a second date also gives you and your partner the opportunity to plan the second date in detail together. You can talk about where and when you would like your next date to take place so that you each have a chance to offer your input.

A second date is very rarely guaranteed so asking for a second date includes a risk of rejection. Whether you choose to ask for your second date by sending a gift or meeting in person, you may find yourself being rejected. It is important remember that even if you perceived the first date as going very well your date may have not felt the same way.

Eye contact is an important part of making a connection with someone you care about, but staring will make you seem odd. Here are some ideas to make eye contact easier.

• Do not stare - You just want to glance at her and catch her eye.
• Relax - Be casual about it and it will be easier not to stare.
• Do not force it - Eye contact only works if she want to make eye contact as well.
• Smile - It will make you seem a nicer person.
• Not all the time - You should not hold eye contact for an entire conversation.
• Look like you are listening - Eye contact makes you look like you are listening

Only after you have had eye contact with her should you "check her out". As you are holding eye contact, glance at her body and then make eye contact again. It should happen as quickly as possible and you are not staring at her body.

Keeping your eyes off her body

It is hard to if you are looking at her too much. One rule that can help is the 30 second rule. Do not look at her more than once every 30 seconds unless she is speaking. Also if you look at her body for 10 seconds and have not made eye contact, you are staring.

Recently I had a visitor make a comment on my site about one of my articles. He said:

Your advice seems great, but it kinda falls through if you're a social outcast, pessimistic, and suffer from low self esteem and little confidence. Every time I try to flirt I end up feeling so foolish, aloof, self loathing. What would you suggest I do? I love being social, but I always feel out of place and awkward around others. But I'm tired of sleep waking through life and being a bachelor, so any assistance you could provide would be most appreciated. ^[2]

One thing that I think this guy needs to work on is self image. We have all had negative feeling about ourselves or have had times when we were not confident. What most of us do not realise is that how we feel about ourselves is how we appear to others . If you feel sad, you are not going to make the type of fun conversation that is required for flirting.

If we see ourselves as a social outcast, pessimistic, suffering from low self esteem and having little confidence, what chance is there that anyone else will see us in a different light. Although it may be hard, you need to first see that you have nothing to lose.

Once you realise that you have nothing to lose , you have no reason to avoid participating in activities. The next step is to think about the kind of man that you would like to be. Watch a few James Bond 007 movies if you need a few ideas. Just listen to the confidence that James Bond has. Wouldn't you like to have the same personality as James Bond?

Next time you are out, pretend that you a James Bond . Not in the action sense, but rather his manners and the way he carries himself. Your a smooth talking, sharp dressing guy . What ever emotions you have are hidden away from the world. If you find this too hard, perhaps you need more practice. To build up your confidence try:

• Taking classes in public speaking,
• Taking dance lessons,
• Memorise current events (for conversations starters).

We are who we perceive ourselves to be . Just change the way you perceive yourself to change the person you are. If you look this another way, you need to be happy with who you are before you can appear confident.

A good example is when one of my friends was talking to a mechanic. After 20 years of driving expensive v8 cars, they were now driving a cheap small car. They talked to the mechanic as if they were ashamed of driving a cheap small car, and they left the conversation feeling down. What they should have done is pretended to feel passionate about their cheap small car. Their voice would then sound passionate and this creates interest. Why is this person so passionate about a cheap small car? Perhaps you saved money for that world trip while driving a small car to save the environment.

Life is an interesting thing. Everything about it is interesting. You have read this article from an internet connection. That means you have something. Live every day happy that you are not someone who has nothing. By doing this you will not be pessimistic, and will see life in a better light.

Things to think about when meeting your girlfriend's friends:

• Dress nicely
• Be polite and respectful
• Try to remember their names
• Smile
• Act confident
• Show interest in what they say
• Try to learn more about them
• Compliment your girlfriend in front of them
• Relax and stay calm

Making small talk is a necessary skill in many aspects of life. A new friendship will in most cases start off with casual conversation about general topics, as well as business and work often requiring you to network. Even when searching for a partner you will need to master the art of small talk.

It can be challenging and seem some what meaningless, especially to introverts. However, there is no doubt you will appear more friendly and open if you manage to keep up conversations with strangers and acquaintances. All it takes is some practice and a bit of thought.

Preparation

There are many ways you can build up your confidence when it comes to small talk. One of the main problems people experience when trying to keep up a conversation is that they are unsure what to talk about. Try to think about what interests you; your hobbies, articles and books you have read lately or a new CD you bought last week. Your passions are the best source of small talk.

It also helps to widen your horizons if you want to come off as an interesting and entertaining conversation partner. Update yourself on topics that you know little about, go eat at new restaurants or watch a movie you would normally not go see.

Practice in front of a mirror on how to appear open and approachable. Smile, make eye contact and look interested. Talk to yourself about various topics to see how it goes. Try to spot your weak points and work on them.

Get started

You need to start talking, no matter how uncomfortable it makes you feel in the beginning. Practice makes perfect. You will find that the more you do it, the more natural it will come to you. Start conversing with those you come across during the course of the day. The cashier at your local bank, the person in front of you in a queue, the old woman sitting next to you on the bus. You will soon notice that not only does it brighten your day, it will probably brighten theirs as well.

The work place is a great arena for small talk. Building relationships with co-workers is rewarding in many ways. You will feel more comfortable while performing your job if you get to know your colleagues, the networking effect will help your career chances and you will come off as a social and friendly person. Did you know that a large percentage of people find their future husband or wife at work?

The possible pitfalls

Discussing religion or politics can make you seem as an opinionated and interesting person, but it may also offend those around you. If you find it hard to judge your crowd, you are better off staying away from controversial topics. Stories involving sex or rude words also have the potential to insult someone.

Make sure that you don't get too personal with strangers. Talking about how your child is doing in school is fine, telling someone about your horrible ex is not. Avoid subjects that can make your conversation partner feel uncomfortable.

Perfecting your art

To be a good talker, you need to be a good listener. Keep your attention fixed on the person you are conversing with. Letting your eyes wander around the room and seeming bored is considered rude by most people. Focus on being an active listener; ask follow up questions and make comments relating to what they are talking about.

At most social gatherings you will benefit from keeping chats short and sweet. When it is time to move on you should excuse yourself politely. If you go to fill up your drink, make a trip to the bathroom or sit down to have some food, ending your current conversation will come naturally. Either way, make your goodbye civil and respectful. It may help to memorize a few exit lines: “I see a friend of mine over there, I should go and say hello”, “Let me refresh our drinks” or “I guess we should mingle a bit” will be sufficient.

If you have ever been in love you probably have fond memories of the butterflies in your stomach, the euphoric happiness and the increased sex drive. Unfortunately, this altered state of being does not last forever; within six months to three years you will be back to your old self. What causes these emotions and the initial attraction? And why does some relationships last far beyond the first rush of feelings?

People like to claim that love comes from the soul or possibly the heart, all depending on how far they wish to push the metaphors. Realistically, it all happens in your brain and it's a chemical reaction.

In the beginning...

You see her from across the room and immediately feel you have to get to know her. Bravely you approach her and soon hours have past without either one of you noticing. What happened?

When two people are attracted to each other adrenaline-like neurochemicals start racing around in their heads, speeding up the flow of information between the nerve cells. Dopamine and norepinephrine are also created, dopamine to feel good and norepinephrine to stimulate the production of adrenaline. This process actually increases the speed blood is pumped around your body, so when you say: “She makes my heart race”, you are not speaking metaphorically. These three chemicals is what create infatuation and make you want to talk all night or have sex for hours.

Forming a relationship

It is your fourth date and you are soon to be a couple. You feel close to her emotionally, physically and romantically. What process in your brain causes you to feel so attached to a person who just recently entered your life?

Once we are in love, another booster is released: Oxytocin. Oxytocin is best known for it's role in mother-child bonding, but it also helps us form romantic relationships. This chemical has both mental and physical triggers, such as the voice of your lover or even a sexual fantasy. It prompts cuddling between partners before, during and after sex. Even better, both men and women become calmer and more sensitive to the feelings of others under the influence of oxytocin.

Happily ever after?

If “I am just not in love with you any more” or “My feelings for you have changed” sound familiar to you, then chances are you have reached phase two of your relationship.

After a period of time, the initial infatuation subsides and many couples choose to break up at this milestone. However, if you stay together a whole new group of chemicals take over. They are created by endorphins: Morphine-like opiates. When we are being constantly reassured by intimacy, dependability and shared experiences these come into play. Naturally it makes our relationship less exciting, but it will be all the more addictive. It's the lack of these chemicals that causes us to miss our loved ones when they are not with us.

Do not despair, though, if your partner is far away or you long to experience a chemical romance of your own; hot chocolate is a good replacement. It's full of that adrenaline-like neurochemical phenylethylamine.

A successful date depends on many factors. While what you actually do and how well you plan it can have an effect, chemistry and spontaneity is equally as important.

We all wish to leave a lasting impression on those we date. The most efficient way of doing this is to make sure your partner has a good time. Whether they love watching movies at home or eating sushi at a fancy restaurant, you should aim for fulfilling their wishes and not your own.

Take your love interest's personality and hobbies into account when you plan the details of your future date. Also make sure that you prepare her sufficiently for what is in store. While a lot of people enjoy surprises, it is not fun to show up in high heels and a short dress for a hike in the forest.

THE FUN-LOVING

Laughing together is a bonding experience. You can safely assume your date has been successful if she laughs and has fun. Who doesn't want to end the night in high spirits with a smile on their face? Being entertained will also take the pressure off both of you and avoid awkward silence.

Go wall climbing

Maybe there is a climbing wall in your area open for the public? It doesn't matter if neither of you have done it before, you can learn together. You can also enjoy the beautiful view while you spot her.

Play video games

Visit an arcade and play together. Racing games where you can compete side by side or air hockey to face each other head on should get you laughing and bonding in no time.

Cover her in paint

Check if there is a paintball field near you and lure out your date's competitive edge. Nothing says love like firing paint at each other, right?

Sign up for a dance class

Salsa, ballroom or tango; anything that will get you close to each other and having fun. If she is a good sport she will love your initiative and chances are you can make use of your newfound skills during a future date.

THE CULTURAL

If she is interested in culture, you may want to share an experience with her. Going to a concert, a movie or a play will give you something to talk about over dinner afterwards.

Go to a jazz club

Live music, good drink and a nice atmosphere may secure the success of your date. It helps if you know a little about the music, as it will spark conversation and give you a chance to impress.

Visit a local art exhibit

Local artists need your support and you may even find a new favorite photographer, painter or sculptor in your own area. The best cultural experiences come when you widen your horizons and do something different than your regular routine. Afterwards you can bash or praise the exhibit with your date.

Take her to a book signing

If she loves to read and you know her taste in books, surprise her by taking her to a book signing you think she will like. It is also the perfect excuse to give her a little gift, as she will need a copy of the book. Make sure you sign it as well, it will be a great memory later on.

THE ROMANTIC

Romance can be so much more than candle lights and fireplaces, though both will help you set the right mood. Whether you want to go all out or keep it intimate, the key is to make your date feel truly special. Good romance requires both planning and spontaneity.

Take her to watch the sunrise/sunset

Nothing screams romance like spending the beginning or end of a day together. This idea requires a spot with a beautiful view where you can be alone together, such as the local beach or park.

Hot air balloon ride

A hot air balloon ride can be a wonderful and romantic experience, assuming neither you or your date is afraid of heights. Bring a picnic basket or a bottle of wine and enjoy the unique view from high up.

A night at a hotel

Book a room (or two) at a classy hotel not too far away. Call in advance and make sure that strawberries and champagne is waiting for you for that “Pretty Woman” feel. For dinner you order in room service. Intimate and romantic, though expensive.

THE ADVENTUROUS

Maybe you both enjoy the thrill of the outdoors? Then camping, sailing or rock climbing might be right up your alley. Just make sure she is dressed for the occasion and fit to join you in your adventure.

Serve her a three-course meal in the woods

There is no reason to forget the romance just because you have taken her camping. Plan ahead and cook a three-course meal over the bonfire. She is likely to be impressed, however simple you make each dish.

Bungee jumping

Feel the rush of the wind on your faces and watch the ground approach at amazing speed. Maybe you can even jump together?

Go mountain biking

Rent the bikes and take off on a bumpy ride in the forest. Any potential nervousness will disappear as you concentrate on balancing your bikes through the tracks. Make sure to bring water, her favorite snack and some band aids.

The question has had men scratching their heads for centuries – What is it women want? No amount of research has given a final answer. No wonder! Women are as different as men. Some are attracted to robust body types, some like them slim. Some want a guy with piercings and tattoos, others without. One girl's dream guy can dance all night, another's can finish a novel in one evening.

Confusing? Not really. It simply means that there are so many preferences, everyone has a match out there. That's good news!

However, there seems to be a few traits the majority of women find attractive and look for in a future partner.

Appealing looks and an individual style

Some women are hesitant to mention physical attractiveness when they talk about potential partners, but it does play a role. Fortunately, their preferences in this respect vary greatly, sometimes even from one relationship to the next.

Nevertheless, many list white, healthy teeth and a well-groomed appearance high up on the list. Landing a dashing dresser with an individual style is also important to some. Cleanliness is however essential - good hygiene is an absolute must when dealing with the opposite sex.

Stable finances

While it may seem like riches and fame attracts women, a recent internet study done by klikk.no, a Norwegian e-magazine, suggests that they look for stability. 81 percent listed income as unimportant or of little importance. A high salary and a fat bank account is not a necessity when it comes to romance and dating, in other words. However, more than 80 % said good credit rating and responsible budgeting as vital.

Confidence and charm

There is no doubt that charismatic personalities tend to attract more women. Self-confident with a positive outlook on life is mentioned and valued by many.

It also helps if you know what you want and aren't afraid to voice it. Apparently, the “weaker sex” loves opinionated guys who willingly share their feelings or dive into an intelligent discussion. Equally important is being a good listener and kindness. Women want to be respected, appreciated and heard by their partners.

Close to all women set “a good sense of humour” as one of their criteria. Good is a relative term, the important part is that it matches hers. If you make the woman of your dreams laugh, you are well on your way to being her ideal date.

Attention and romance

The chick-flicks aren't lying – women love romance. While it doesn't necessarily have to involve expensive dates or a hundred red roses, it does require your full attention and care. Small, personal presents and light pampering is all it takes for most women to feel special. Sincere compliments that make her feel good about herself are important, both when flirting and when you are in an established relationship.

Opposites do not attract

People tend to find partners similar to themselves, a research by Cornell University in New York concluded. Women want a stable relationship and achieve this by picking partners who share their values and interests.

The survey mentioned wealth and status, family commitment, physical appearance and sexual fidelity. When asked, many women also added shared religion and similar hobbies as strategic choices they made when looking for a boyfriend or husband.

Be desirable, but stay faithful

According to a study done by University of Aberdeen, women are drawn to males desired by other women. When a man was smiled at by other females he appeared more attractive. They see it as a sign he is a quality male and change their initial impression accordingly.

That being said, almost all women asked looked for monogamous relationships and faithful men. They want to feel secure and safe. Even though an internet survey by MSNBC.com/iVillage suggested as many as 21 % of all participants had cheated on their current partner, fidelity is still high on the check list for most.

Chemistry in bed

There is no doubt sex is important – also to women. While a good relationship is a requirement for good sex, satisfying sex is also a requirement for a satisfying relationship. Being a good lover is not determined by skill or physical knowledge, but rather by your ability to adapt to and connect in the bedroom.

“Chemistry” is a word used by many and involves a number of things. Physical attraction, emotional connection and the love you have for each other will help when taking a relationship to the next level.

Women tend to describe a man who is caring and aware of her needs when asked what makes a good lover.

The bad boy myth

It is said that nice guys finish last, but it really depends where you draw the finish line. A scientific study by the New Mexico State University suggests that narcissistic and manipulative men tend to have more sex partners than other males their age. However, they suspect this is caused by the amount of encounters these men have with women. They come on to more women and therefore have an increased chance of success.

When it comes to picking long term partners women favour men who will make good fathers – at least most of the time. Research done by Charles University in Prague shows that women choose responsible and caring men when they are single or not ovulating. During ovulation, however, women in relationships preferred the scent of dominant males.

Be yourself

There is nothing wrong with self-improvement. However – sincerity, confidence and a great, big smile will get you well on your way to being someone's dream date. Be the best that you can be, but be yourself.

It is always a good thing to act confident and have fun on your date. Just as long as you aren't TOO confident. Most ladies will just see you as a try hard jerk and never want to see or hear from you again.

Having fun would have to be the key though. I mean, who doesn't like having fun? Even if through the whole date you have only established each others names, age, location and pets because you were both too busy laughing at (probably your lame jokes!). Who cares! If you both have fun on your date then she will most likely want to see you again and that is when you can both catch up on the more important things about each other.

Now, about acting confident...

It is always a plus on a date because most women don't like the shy type. If you are shy however, you may want to practice "picking yourself up" in a mirror. You may feel and look like a total idiot doing it but at least then you can get an idea of how you will be coming across to her. Being shy is nothing to be ashamed of or feel down about. There are women out their that like they shy guys and think that it is really cute. In some cases it could work as an advantage towards you. Most shy guys are seen as “the good ones”. Although there are people that say to watch out for them!

If you are a confident guy naturally, limit yourself. A lot of men will make the mistake of offering to their date what they have as possessions, trying to build themselves up to sound all successful and all that jazz. Fair enough that being a successful man is great, but you don't need to make it sound like that is all you have to offer her if you were to pursue something more.

For example..

If you have a high paying or decent paying job and own a nice car. Expand on the sentence " Hey babe, I'm a lawyer and I drive a ferrari" (I'm not saying all guys speak like that but a majority of you do). Try explaining to them how much you enjoy being a lawyer and why. One of your reasons can be that you get to drive and afford expensive cars. Ahh! Now doesn't that sound better?

Being over confident could either make or break you possible future romance. From most women’s point of view.. It would BREAK!

Just remember to be yourself and not to try so hard. Being yourself will never go wrong though. Yes maybe being yourself will not see you a second date, but if she doesn’t accept you for who you are, then what kind of future will you have together? You do not want someone that is only with you for what you have possessions wise and couldn’t care less how you are as a person. You want someone that is with you for the person you are.

Online dating is not all that different from meeting offline, although it's the meeting in person that could well be the crucial factor in deciding what direction the relationship will take. Lots of couples click fantastically online but when they meet offline, it turns out to be totally disastrous. Online dating is a great way to meet other single people and the exciting part is to moving your online relationship to an offline one.

Ok, so you think you've met your soul mate through an online dating website. What next? You would really like to take it from the online meetings to a dinner for two. You've got to be prepared for anything though. It doesn't matter whether she lives in the same country or in another. Make it a point to build up enough confidence to talk over the telephone. It can really raise your comfort level - there's a big difference reading text versus listening to a live voice. Get to know her well, so that you are not tongue tied when you get together on that dinner date.

There's every chance she might think twice when you call her out for dinner - for all she knows, you might be a stalker who's out to get her blood. Or you could just be looking for a good time. So what do you do?

Here Are Some Tips

Honesty is really the best policy - be truthful. That need not mean that you should tell her every little detail about you, but do not lie about the details that you do disclose to her. Sincerity gets through very nicely to a woman and it forms the basis for trust. When you move ahead and the trust develops, it is easier to decide to meet for that offline dinner. Moreover, this makes both of you feel comfortable when you finally end up meeting since you didn't hide anything from her.

Go slow. Don't try to rush the relationship. This works in any relationship, but especially so in an online relationship. Try not to be monotonous. Don't make inane comments or remarks. She'll be quickly bored. Make sure you know what information her profile has, and ask relevant questions, while giving information about yourself as well. It will draw her out and encourage her to feel more confident about you.

One of the best ways to become compatible is by discussing common interests. This is how you probably met her in the first place - so get into the comfort groove. Don't show your anxiety of meeting her offline. If the two of you are really getting along fine, she might even be the one to suggest meeting up for dinner.

So, no matter how many emails, pictures or phone calls you have shared, you must be sure that she's open to the idea of meeting you offline, because you must not scare her away by suggesting it too soon. You can make her feel safer by meeting up in a public place first during the daytime for coffee, so that she is at ease. Once you have done that, make sure that you don't bore her to death - she must find you just as interesting offline as she did online.

A lot of women will have their own list of what things turn them off a guy, but the following would have to be the most common. Read them carefully and take notes.

Swearing like a trooper

Try and control yourself from any profanity. It makes you seem like less of a respectable guy and she may get offended by it. If you feel the need to curse, substitute the bad word for a nicer word. Hopefully you will not be talking about anything that will give you this need in the first place. Talking about your likes on a first date is much more better and appropriate then talking about the things you dislike and feel the need to swear about.

It is always good to get into nice habits that better yourself anyway. Swearing only impressed your classmates back when you were 15. Nobody will respect you at this age if you continue that trend.

Eating with your mouth open

Nobody thinks this is attractive. If you can manage it, chew with your mouth closed. She doesn’t want to see what is inside your mouth. If you are at a restaurant or something similar, order something that you can eat in small portions. That way you won’t have to try and shove it all in your mouth at once and then have trouble chewing and swallowing it that you start to chew with your mouth open

Burping is a big turn off as well. If you need to release one, go into the nearest bathroom and do it there (along with the other kind of burp). Do not tell her that is what you are going there for. Just excuse yourself for the bathroom. It would be nice to think that guys knew this for themselves. You will all learn one day!

Checking out other women

Expect a slap in the face or for your date to just get up and leave you there. It is obvious why this would be a big turnoff for a woman. It would have to be the worst actually. It shows your date instantly that you are not only focused on her, you’re focused on the hot blonde walking behind her as well. If you are on a date with someone that you really like (hopefully you wouldn’t be looking at others), treat them like they are the only other person there. Not so much that it freaks her out, just enough to show her how interested you are. It is a winner everytime.

In conclusion guys, THINK about you’re actions before and during you’re date. Don’t be a big fake about it either. That is a turn off for some too. Pretending to be someone you’re not.

Be honest about who you are (if you are a frequent profanity user etc) but not over the top.

Keep a note of all that has been said on this subject and it will make all the difference. Memorize all the DON’T’S and you will be fine.

There is no real guide line to go by for this subject because if you are going to go to all the effort to plan a perfect date, it should be YOUR individual vision of how you would like it to be. It also depends on how well you know the woman before the date. I suppose the better you know her, the easier it will be to plan because then you will know what she likes and dislikes. You don't want to be pushing the wrong buttons.

First impressions last. They may never be spoken of again in the future but they will always be remembered. So make yours one to remember.

Plan something simple and tasteful. Movies are usually a no go unless you plan on having lunch or dinner afterwards. The reason seeing a movie as a first date is not the best idea is because you can't really talk to each other. You both are too busy watching what is on the screen. After the movie you can both maybe grab a bite to eat and the movie can be your ice breaker if things get a little quiet.

A long drive and a picnic is always a good idea too. Not too long a drive though! Max. 1hr. The places that take longer to get to are usually the ones you will be wanting to take your date. A few reasons for this is that you can have decent and in depth talks on the way and get to know each other a little better, there will usually be a nice bit of scenery to look at on your drive, and most far away places are the ones with a great view, are quiet and peaceful.

It is totally up to the individual and how you would like your 'perfect date' to go. Maybe you would feel more comfortable just talking over a cup of coffee.

A date doesn't have to last a few hours, although it is a great sign if it is and it isn't struggling! If your date lasts under 1 hour then maybe you will want to go over it in your own time and try and pin point where it all went downhill. Maybe you only had a 30 minute lunch break at work and you both have decided to meet up and have a mini date. That isn't included in the 1 hour rule!

Either way, a woman will appreciate it and yourself more if they know that you have put all of the plans for your date together yourself. It shows them the sort of person you are, and that is a great impression (if they like what they see date set up wise). So grab a pen and paper and start writing down any ideas you have for your perfect date. It will make it easier for you when the time comes.

You might even have a few different ideas for the different types of woman to choose from.

Better get cracking on your ideas then guys!

It is very common for people to have a dating disaster. Not everybody is compatible with one another. There ARE ways you can get around this rut that people often find themselves in when it comes to dating.

If you have a dating disaster, don't look at it as a fault of yours as a reason that it didn't work out. If you were trying to annoy your date and make her leave because you knew from the moment she opened her mouth that it would not work, that is ok. You are not going to sit through a 2 hour date if you are not interested are you? Maybe she was too boring or too loud, or any other reason why you would want her to leave before the date was meant to be over. That is something that you don't really have to recover from because it was you're own choosing to end the date sooner then anticipated.

Ladies will more often then not have a plan B if they are going on a first date, like a code or a sign that she does not think it is working. Usually she will get a friend of hers to give her a call at a certain time and give the magic code word if you are decent or not. If she is still sitting and talking with you after the phone call then see it as "YOUR IN!" Whereas if she says she has to leave after the phone call....take a hint, she isn't interested in you and you will probably never see her again. Big deal! You wouldn’t want to be with someone that needs somebody else’s help to bail them out of a failing date.

However, if it was reversed and you were the one that wasn’t interested in your date, you could always just do the famous runner. A lot of men still do that to this day, just leave their date sitting there alone waiting for you to come back from the bathroom or from using the pay phone.

There is nicer ways to do it though. You could always just stick the date out and then when it is over, do not give her any ideas that you will be calling her or anything. Just say something like “it was nice meeting and getting to know you” If she says something like “You should call me sometime or I will call you”. Reply with a “yeah, sounds good”.

It doesn’t tell her that you are going to call her or not so then you don’t have to feel guilty when you don’t end up calling her. If you do not want her calling you, save her number in your phone and when she calls you, just don’t answer. Or if you can get around it, try and get out of giving it to her until the end of the date. She might turn out to be a decent girl. If not, stick with the ignoring her calls, she will eventually get the hint, unless you have found yourself a new crazy stalker. If that ends up being the case… Good luck!

What a silly question. There shouldn’t be one of you that is in control and the other one that is the “follower”. There should be equal control in a relationship. That is probably the most important thing to keep in mind. If the balance is out then that is when problems start. A woman (well most) like to know that the man they are with is protective over them. In the sense that they often ask how they are feeling and how their day was. Genuinely caring for their well being. It means a lot more to woman then you may think when a man asks them questions like that. It shows that you are and are honestly interested in those little details. Do not be too full on and clingy about it. Like men, women can feel smothered by it as well.

Some women like to be the one "in control" of the relationship. They are into all the new age hype about women not needing a man to do almost anything for them anymore, except marry them and give them children to feel fulfilled in life. Actually, that probably isn't the best way to say it. Women just feel that they don't need a man to do things like pay most of the bills, be the sole provider for the family, set up the the entertainment system or even build a piece of furniture.

There is no real right or wrong answer to this question. Some men like to be in control and do all the things like be the bread winner. In relationships like that, the woman sees it as a great quality in her man which is why probably why she chose to be with him in the first place. A real reliable family man. All women like that!

Then you get the woman that wants to do basically everything by herself to prove that she is capable and doesn't really need you. They are the kind that you should stay away from. They will only intimidate you and cause problems that should never even have to explode into something more than a little argument. Most women like that are career driven anyway and will probably never find a man that fits their 'requirements' and settle down. Oh well that is their loss right? You can do better anyway!

Some guys might like that their woman is like that. It means that they won't always have to pay for dinner or the movie tickets and popcorn (which is getting pretty expensive these days!)

In conclusion to this topic guys, the best way to find out who should be in control of your relationship is to first find out what role you want to play in the relationship and which role your woman wants to play. If you cannot successfully do that, then all hope is lost for your romance together.

Find the balance and you will be fine.

The following would have to be the 3 main reasons why she hasn’t been calling you.

Have a read through them and you may be surprised by what you read and find out. Then you can change the way you go about some things and you will be having ladies calling you 24/7!!!

Seeming too pushy

One of the main reasons that she probably hasn't called you yet is that she doesn't want to seem too pushy. Therefore resulting in waiting for you to make the next move. If you don't contact her within say, 3 days, that would most likely be taken as a sign that you weren't really that interested in her. Something like that would definitely not make her want to call you.

If you have been on a few dates already and everything has been fine, start thinking about things like...

"Why am I always the one calling first" OR

"Was I always the one making the plans to do things" etc.

That may be indication that she wasn't overly interested in YOU from the first date, and maybe continued seeing you to see if there was something more between you. After realizing there wasn't, she has been trying to drop you a hint by not calling. Sorry guys but there is no point sugar coating a good possible reason why she isn't calling you. Nobody is perfect!

Just not interested

As the heading suggests, she just may not be interested in you, full stop. Which is fair enough considering that 2 single individuals out of the whole entire world need to find each other and live happily ever after. Makes it a bit harder huh? It can be done though! So if she doesn't end up calling you after the first date and you are too frustrated from waiting around, take it as a sign that she is not the one for you. You then have to get her out of your system and start looking for someone that will return to you what you give them. That is ALWAYS a good sign!

It doesn’t matter if you find out that she wasn’t interested in you, not everybody will like you in that way but there is no reason why you still can’t be friends.

Yes I know that is the sentence that guys hate the most, but sometimes that’s just how it works out. You may not find a lover from your date, but you may find a new found friend that is of the opposite sex to you and then you will not have to read articles such as this to find answers. You will have a real life dating bible next to you!

It's the guys job

A lot of women still believe that the guy should make the first move and call her after a date. Newsflash! Old fashioned tenancies don't fly! But alas, some women stick to what they believe (there is nothing wrong with sticking to what you believe) and they will not call you after a date. They figure "Well if he really liked me then he would call". This sentence is oh so true and so many women will resort to it in this situation. Women can be very stubborn (as can men) and there is no way you will be getting a follow up call from her…. forget about it! Who cares? Move on! She is probably high maintenance anyway! Times have changed since 1928 and women actually do call men first, so if your new lady friend hasn’t called you yet, cut your losses and look for someone else. If she really enjoyed your company in the first place then she would have no problem in contacting you first.

If you are reading this, I am assuming that you are old enough to start dating. However, you might be experiencing a lot of hitches in your dating career due to the fact that you are a painfully shy person. There are tips in this article that will help you in overcoming shyness for good. I know it must seem real hard to get a conversation when you are around women - especially if you fancy her.

Here are some tips to help you the next time you are in that tight situation. Before we list them, here are some questions you should ask yourself to verify if you are a scaredy cat when it comes to talking to that lady:

* Do you suddenly feel like the world's worst idiot when you get a chance to talk to the girl?
* Are you scared of even approaching her?
* Does it seem as if all you are telling her sound like gibberish or worse, Swahili whereas everything every other guy seems so perfect you feel stupid?

If you want help in overcoming your shyness, you will need to do better. The reason for your fear is that girls seem utterly undecipherable to you, some cryptic mystery. However, if you know the truth about girls and the way they think, you might really be on the ball and be ready to give it one more try.

Boost your communication skills around ladies with the following easy-looking yet effective techniques:

* Be yourself. Girls are not all that crazy about the hulk Hogan muscles or Brad Pitt moody stare, no matter what people have been telling you. What you have to say counts, as long as you can be humorous - even a little - you can still command the attention of a lady. Even if you feel you are lacking in the looks department, but as long as you have got the substance, you can still attract the girls in droves!

* Be creatively funny! The best way to get the attention of a girl on first sight is to try for a bit of humor. Using a casual, off-hand witty remark could just be the key to opening up her heart. Believe me, this much is true!

* Fall in love with yourself first! It figures. If you cannot get yourself to like even you, then what makes you think someone else will? Learn to appreciate you for who you are, honing those points in your life that are really cool. Be careful with this, though, because you might eventually succeed in overcoming your shyness, only to end up being an arrogant prick!

* It's the year of the gentleman. Be one! Open doors for her. Pull up her seat. Take her order. It doesn't even require talking too much. How easy can it get?

If you consciously begin to apply these little nuggets, it would soon occur to you that it really is no big deal talking to a lady. In fact, it is real easy overcoming your shyness!

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Easy way to be more romantic number one: Write love notes. If you do a romantic cost-benefit analysis, love notes probably have the best return on investment of anything romantic you can do. Think about it all it takes is a few seconds and you can turn a pen and a yellow sticky note pad into romance. Write things like "you're beautiful", "I love you", "missing you", "I have a crush on you" or anything else you can think of on little notes and hide them in places your wife will find them when she least expects it. Place notes in places like her purse, her car, her makeup compact. As she finds these notes she will be reminded of you and will feel the romance. You may think it's cheesy but these little notes work.

Easy way to be romantic number two: Send flowers just because. Every now and then throw her a curveball by sending flowers just because. They don't have to be the biggest bouquet in the world, 15 or $20 will do, just hit her when she least expects it every now and then. If you do this two or three times a year, your wife will brag about how great you are and how wonderful her husband is.

Easy way to be romantic number three: Ask her out on a date. This is something so simple yet it is usually the first thing to fade away in any long-term relationship. If you've been together one-month or 100 years, you should still ask her out on a date every now and then. Make plans as if it was your first date, tell her when to be ready and possibly go wash the car or do something away from the home before the date so that you can "officially"pick her up at the scheduled time of your date. Again this may sound corny or cheesy but it will bring back those feelings she had when the relationship was new. So rather than just take your wife out to dinner next Friday, ask her if she would like to go on a date.

Easy way to be romantic number four: Take her to get her hair or nails done. This shows her that you are devoting some time just for her it may seem miserable to sit there for 45 minutes while she gets a manicure but it will show her you really care. If she asks why you're doing this, tell her it's because you love her.

Easy way to be romantic number five: Send flirty text messages. Just because you're married doesn't mean you can't flirt. So when you think of it send her a quick text message telling her how beautiful she is or how much you care about her.

You don't have to buy diamonds, you don't have to go on expensive vacations, sometimes all you need is a few notes, some free time and a little thoughtfulness and you too will be known as the world's most romantic husband.

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Whether you caused the breakup or it was a mutual agreement, you might be having some regrets and realize that he was the love of your life. If that is the case, then you should stop thinking of the past and concentrate on how to get him back in your arms fast. Here are some very effective tips to get your ex boyfriend back.

There is nothing you can do about what has already happened. But if you want to get your ex boyfriend back, there are some specific things you can do to shape the future. Certain things will turn your ex on and other things will turn him off. From being with him, you should be very familiar with his likes and dislikes. Having this knowledge can give you a big advantage over him, so use it to your best advantage.

The first thing you should do is to think back to when you first met the love of your life. What was it that attracted him to you then? Was it the fact that you were so carefree and self confident? Try to remember the things he said to you at that time. Maybe he liked the way you wore your hair, or a certain way you smiled. What ever attracted him to you then, will do the same again. If you can remember the things that attracted him at first, and become that woman again, you can get him back in your arms fast.

Go look into the mirror and see if you can picture the woman you were then. Look on the inside as well as the outside. Sometimes your personality changes more than your looks. You develop certain traits or characteristics without being aware of it. You might have become a nagger, and found fault at the least little thing. You might have become domineering, especially if your man was mild mannered. It is much easier to see outer changes than the inner ones and you can change a hairstyle much easer than a bad habit.

Whatever problems you find, you will have to fix in order to get your ex boyfriend back. You can get your looks back to the way they were when you first met your man quite easily. Go to a good salon and take a picture of the way you looked then and tell them you want to look that way again. The bad habits you might have developed will take longer to overcome. You can work on them, but just as it takes time to develop a habit, it takes time to get rid of it. With determination and patience you can do it.

To attract him and get him back in your arms again, you have to show him that you are again the woman he fell in love with. Get with your girlfriends and go to places he hangs out. Do not engage him in conversation, but make sure he gets a good look at you and then leave. He will think he is seeing things, and a flood of memories will envelop him. He will be transported in memory back to the time he first met you. The same wave of attraction will flow over him again, and he will realize that he still loves you and wants to be back in your arms again.

If this is the man for you, don't give up. There are proven methods to make him love you like never before. Bad mistakes can ruin your relationship for good. To avoid these fatal mistakes, you need proven steps to get your ex boyfriend back and keep him. What you should and shouldn't do can be found at this Helpful Site.

Dating can be confusing for men. Should you focus on showing you’re a nice guy or aim to come across as and macho and strong?

Dating guides might encourage you to impress her with grand romantic gestures and unbounded admiration, but we know what women really want when dating, and it might surprise you! Here are the top four surprising traits which impress women when dating.

1. No grand gestures (just the smaller ones will do)

When we think of romance it can often conjure up images of grand gestures which will sweep a woman off her feet. While a giant bouquet of roses or an unexpected weekend in Paris are not to be sniffed at, you cannot buy a woman’s affection - it is the smaller gestures which will lead to approval.

Holding a door open for the person you are dating (in the right circumstances) shows good manners without being over the top. Try to emphasise your respect without making too much of a fuss – she will notice the little things and you will be able to keep up this behaviour over time (while too many mini-breaks could leave you bankrupt!)

2. An element of challenge

A lot of very good men fall down unnecessarily here with dating. Women love to be looked after to some extent, but don’t really need to have their every whim catered to by a man who quite obviously adores them from day one.

While treating a woman well is one thing, being an absolute pushover is never all that attractive, and this is the reason many ‘nice guys’ aren’t the ones who are the luckiest when it comes to dating. There is an element of ‘the thrill of the chase’ for both sexes, so bear this in mind and try not to put the woman you are dating on a pedestal straight away – let her impress you, too!

3. A stubborn streak

The woman you are dating might give the impression she wants you to change, but let her wrap you around her little finger and you could discover, changes made, that she’s lost interest after all. This is because most women, deep down, are a lot happier knowing their partner is a strong man who can speak up for himself.

If she does ask you to change, be very wary of doing it. That is, unless it’s a change you wanted to make anyway (like stopping smoking! That’s always a good idea). Try to stay true to yourself, while looking after her needs where you can, and she’ll respect you more for it.

4. Being unavailable

This does not equate to not calling back – that’s just rude! But a certain amount of unavailability can make for a longer lasting relationship. She might think she wants you to be around all the time but a little time apart can do wonders to keep the spark going between you.

If you aim to keep up your usual activities, such as meeting your friends and family or spending time on your hobbies, this should give enough down-time to your relationship to keep it burning hot when you’re together.

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