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How To Play The Vibraphone
The vibraphone can be an exciting challenge to learn for music students of any age. It can help teach the basics of music on an instrument that has a classic look, strong tradition and a rich sound. Playing the vibraphone can lead to playing in jazz bands or percussion sections in a music group. Vibraphones can even be played as a solo instrument.
Playing the vibraphone is easy and can be learnt in 5 easy steps.
1. Learn to read music
Although you might still be able to play by ear, you would be wise to teach yourself to read music. A lot of the music written for malleted percussion instruments is hard to remember and difficult to play without reading music.
2. Learn the layout of keys on an keyboard instrument
Although the vibraphone is not a keyboard instrument, the layout of the bars are similar to that of a keyboard / piano. Once you learn where the notes are on a piano, you will be able to find them on the vibraphone.
3. Position yourself
You need to get yourself into position to play your first note. This means holding both of the mallets in a light grip that allows the mallet to bounce off the bars of the vibraphone. Also place your preferred foot on the sustain pedal.
4. Play a long note with the pedal down
Press the pedal down and strike a bar with the mallet. This will make a note that lasts for a long time and rings out. This is good if you are playing chords.
5. Play a short note with the pedal up
Lift your foot off the pedal when you are not playing chords. This will stop the melody your are playing from becoming mixed together and unrecognisable. The pedal is similar to the sustain pedal found on a piano.
Types of Musical Groups
Throughout history there conductors and musicians have experiments with different sizes and make ups of musical groups to produce the style they are looking for. In some cases, composers have used a single person, while a group between 3-10 is probably the most popular, although in certain types of music groups it is not uncommon to have 50 or more members.
One of the largest musical groups is the orchestra. An orchestra is typically composed of professional musicians who have mastered their instrument and, in many cases, have some type of degree in music. Orchestras typically perform in concert halls and play symphonies, which are oftentimes historic pieces written by famous musicians like Beethoven or Mozart. These historic symphonies are performed exactly as they would have been hundreds of years ago when their creators first wrote them. The orchestra is lead by a conductor who helps keep the tempo and controls the symphony. The instruments used in orchestras are traditionally acoustic instruments and fall into four categories: woodwind, string, brass, and percussion.
A choir is in some ways the opposite of an orchestra. Instead of being composed mainly of instruments, a choir is based on vocals and can contain several hundred members. Choirs are also very old and are seen most commonly in churches. Many popular musicians, including Elvis, discovered music by joining his local church choir.
Because of the availability of electronic instruments, it is no longer necessary to use a large number of people to produce loud music, so modern music groups usually have between 3-10 people. The majority of modern music groups have a lead singer, a drummer, a guitar player, and a bass player. Some groups have additional singers, guitar players, keyboard players, synthesizers, as well as saxophones, and other more traditional instruments. Modern music groups use many different combinations of musical instruments, as well as playing styles, to achieve a desired sound.
A cappella groups are similar to choirs in that they do not use any instruments and they both have their roots in the church. Modern a cappella movements include barbershop and doo wop. Although traditional a cappella is primarily lyrical, many a cappella pieces emulate the sound of instruments or various other noises one may experience in everyday life. While a cappella is not prevalent in mass pop culture, it is becoming more common. Outreach groups have started a cappella competitions, and there have been hundreds of a cappella albums recorded in the last ten years.
The types of groups mentioned in this article are a small sample of the various music groups the have been assembled to get a certain sound or emulate a style. Historic groups like orchestras and choirs are sure to stay in the mainstream, as well as pop culture groups, but as the world and music change, there is no telling what kind of new music groups we may see in the future.
How music affects society
Music has long been an expression of people from different cultures around the world. The oldest artefacts that show people playing musical instruments are found in Asia and are around four thousand years old. Other archaeological findings suggest that different cultures around the world have always focused on their own special instruments and unique methods of playing them. However, no matter how much music may have differed in different parts of the world, it seems that music served a general common purpose: to bring people together.
It comes to no surprise that music was widely used in temples and religious ceremonies throughout the world. The involvement of community in each culture has caused music to evolve in a way that is unique to each one. Furthermore, as world cultures come into closer contact, they naturally have an influence on one another, such as bluegrass music from the United States, which is a blend of Irish, Scottish, German and African-American instrument-playing and singing.
The aspect of community has been so deeply intertwined with music, that it is difficult to say whether it is music that affects society or if society is reflected in the music that it plays.
The subject is very complex
To say that any one type of music can influence an entire society is a big generalization.
- As society becomes more modernized, people have moved away from tribal instruments and the simple methods of playing them.
- Also, as technology becomes more advanced with digital and mobile audio solutions, individuals can listen to complex sound recordings in total isolation, any time and anywhere.
- Today people can choose to listen to a wide array of styles or to focus on one genre depending on the musical qualities that appeal to them as individuals.
- Media, such as radio, TV and movies can influence pop culture’s tastes in music.
Does music affect society? Or is our popular society shaped by the musical sounds that are directed our way and manage to reach our ears? Are various evolving musical styles simply a continual expression of the subcultures that created them?
Music as a way to affect change in society
The emergence of folk music during the 20th century, and particularly the rise of popular folk music of the 1960’s, is probably the best example of music affecting society. The Civil Rights Movement was in full swing and the largely unpopular war in Vietnam was well underway.
Folk music is, inherently, music played and sung by and for everyday people—music for the masses, so to speak. Naturally, when a culture becomes aware of radical changes that awareness gives way through expression. Folk singer and songwriter Woody Guthrie began writing “protest music” and songs in support of popular movements of the day. Other folk singers such as Bob Dylan and Joan Baez followed suit.
For the first time, music was not only a vehicle for expression, but it was also a way to mobilize and inspire listeners to think differently and take action. The music typically embodied idealistic thinking, shunning capitalism and material comforts. People in the US, particularly the youth, had showed a variety of favorable responses to this genre of music. Shifting from the sterile, clean-cut popular image of the 1950’s, there was a general trend toward freedom, individuality and expression. Generally speaking, ethnic, natural fabrics and hand woven or embroidered clothes became popular; the youth became more open about their experimentation with drugs and sex; there was an overall rejection of power structures and authority. American society was changed drastically and in a lasting way.
US society since pop folk music
Since the tumultuous times of the 60’s and 70’s, pop folk music has faded out of the limelight. With more complex systems of mass communication, pop culture has become more informed by radio, television, movies and the Internet. Furthermore, technology is paving the way for modern urban subcultures that have their own unique styles of music, expression and life philosophies. Music still affects society today; only now, the influences occur in more complex, diverse, and at times subtle ways that are impossible to measure or define.
Psychology of supermarkets
From a consumers point of view, a supermarket is quite simple; Put what you want into your trolley and go through the check-out. Behind the scenes though, psychology is used a lot to define what products and brands you buy in supermarkets. Stands are designed to catch your eye and the store layout is structured to maximise profit.
Through my investigations, I have found the following tactics can be used supermarkets and similar stores.
- Eye level marketing
- Generally speaking, the most expensive items with high profit margins are placed on shelves that are at shoppers' eye level. This is because you are more likely to see them than the less profitable brands at the very top or near your feet..
- Aisle order
- Some customers, particularly men, tend to simply shop for what they want, walking down an aisle grabbing what they want, turning back and walking the way they came, this is called the 'Boomerang Effect'. In order to maximise shopper and produce contact time, shops therefore place major items and brands in the middle of aisles ensuring that from any direction the customer has to walk the furthest to reach them.
- Product grouping
- Items that complement each other are often found close together to entice you to buy more. You'll often find pasta sauces on the same display as a featured brand of pasta.
- Food smells make you feel hungry
- Another tactic supermarkets use is the smell of freshly baked bread coming from the in-store bakery during the after-work rush. The smell of warm bread makes people feel hungry. When you feel hungry while shopping you are more likely to buy additional items.
- Canned smells
- Most Supermarkets bake their bread early in the morning, however to entice more custom some have resorted to pumping out the smell of fresh baking bread to add to the illusion that it is constantly baked through the day.
- Essentials at the back
- Supermarkets hit upon the idea of placing the essentials, such as bread and milk, at the back of the shop. This is in order to make people have to walk past the rest of the produce, and heighten the possibility of impulse buys, in order to get their necessities. Changing rooms in clothes shops are almost always situated at the rear of the shop.
- Attracting children
- One American supermarket chain hit upon the idea of drawing a hopscotch in the aisle next to the children's cereal in order to make the children play and thus pin Mum & Dad to a point where the children could hassle them for treats.
- Irrational Pricing
- Irrational pricing is putting the price of items at say 4.99 instead of 5. The reason offered for not instead rounding $4.99 to $5.00 is based on memory processing time. Rounding upward involves an additional decision compared with storing the first digits. Furthermore, due to the vast quantity of information available for consumers to process, the information on price must be stored in a very short interval. The cheapest way to do so, in memory and attention terms, is by storing the first digits. Therefore customers perceive to be getting a better deal than they in fact are.
- Order Of Price
- Shops will often be laid out in order of price with the most expensive items being encountered at the beginning of your visit and the cheapest at the end. This is done to play on our sense of comparison, we are much more likely to spend money on accessories etc if we have just agreed to buy an expensive item, as in comparison they will seem cheaper than had we encountered them first.
- Point Of Sale
- Whilst you are waiting to pay retailers often install Point Of Sale displays, this is especially prevalent in Supermarkets who install racks of chocolate to tempt bored children waiting with their parents.
- Shuffle
- Many shops have a policy of regularly rotating the stock, this happens especially in supermarkets where people regularly shop for the same items. The idea obviously is to confront customers with a variety of items aside from their regulars and encourage them to explore areas of the shop they may not usually visit.
- Time
- The longer customers spend in a shop the more they are likely to spend. Therefore shops work to make sure customers have to spend the maximum amount of time in their stores, placing obstacles constantly in the way of efficient shopping.
How Music Affects Your Life
Music is a human activity which involves structured, audible sounds and is used for artistic, entertainment or ceremonial purposes. Music is a major part of our environment. Music is often referred to as "The International Language" - a simple thought with vast implications behind it. Even if you cannot speak the language of a foreign country, you can move, dance, and most of all, enjoy the music of that country. While we may not understand the words to a particular song, we do understand the beauty of the music.
The making of music predates man's use of the written word and is deeply tied to the development and uniqueness of various human cultures. Music has influenced human beings since the dawn of civilization. Music is written and performed for a variety of purposes, including human pleasure, religious or ceremonial functions, or as entertainment products for sale in the marketplace.
Music greatly affects our personal moods. Music can calm and revitalize us in a variety of ways. It can elevate our moods above our personal fears and doubts and even reduce stress and pain levels.
Try listening to a classical music score for a sense of power. Soft, soothing music can help you unwind. And listen to medium-fast to fast music for exercising and house cleaning. Putting additional music in your life can be a powerfully enriching tool.
As with everything created by humans, there is an elemental basis for the composition of music. The basic essence of music lies with its harmony, rhythm, melody and dynamics. Harmony is the relation of notes to notes as they are play simultaneously. Rhythm, by the most simple definition, is musical time. Melody is a musical line of single tones or pitches, heard by the listener as a single unity. Dynamics provide the emotion behind the musical thought. Dynamics tell the performer when to play a piece softly or when to play loudly--music ranges from a mere whisper to the fullest of sound.
Just as there are a multitude of definitions for the term "music", likewise there are many divisions and groupings of music, many of which are caught up in the argument over the precise definition of music. Among the larger theme areas are classical music, popular or commercial music (including rock and roll), country music and folk music. Some genres such as bebop-era jazz, rap, punk rock and electronic music are often discounted as "real music" by member music lovers.
As world cultures have grown closer, their particular musical styles and instruments have often merged. For example, U.S.-American bluegrass music contains elements from Anglo-Irish, Scottish, German and some African-American instrumental and vocal traditions. American music is truly product of the multi-ethnic "melting pot" society.
Whatever style of music you prefer, take the time regularly to enjoy your special musical composition. Music is good for your soul!
Article written by Larry Denton
60 signs your girlfriend is cheating
Technology
- She is more interested in her cell phone than you
- You can not access her cell phone or computer
- There is odd computer or cell phone activity
- There is no browser history on her computer
- There are some phone calls she never takes when you are around
- There are strange numbers on her cell phone
- She uses her cell phone much less than she used to, and her friends have a different cell phone number for her
- She has a second cell phone
- She has “single” on her social media profiles
- She does not call you often
- The same guys like and comment on her photos on social media
- She has updated her profile on a dating site
- She hides the computer screen when you are nearby
- She is hard to contact when out of the house
- She seems rushed when you contact her, but relaxed when she contacts you.
Appearance
- She has started buying more clothes than she used to
- You never see her wearing her sexiest clothes
- Her sexiest clothes are in the washing pile when you do not see her wearing them
- She starts caring more about her appearance, especially when she is going out without you.
- Her use of perfume changes
Social
- She does not have anything to do with your family
- She does not have anything to do with your friends
- She is always busy doing something without you
- She is always too busy to do something with you
- You are spending less time together
- She wants to know where you are when she is not with you
- You do not know where she is, when she is not with you
- She encourages you to spend time socialising with other people
- She is always unavailable at night time
- She often goes to bars without you for a girls night out
- She is still friends with ex-boyfriends
- She socialises with many guys
- She mentions a “new friend” that you never meet
Attitude
- She stops paying attention to you
- She does not care about you and the things that you do as much as she used to
- She starts to nag you more that she did in the past
- She avoids questions and replies in a defensive manner
- She does not seem happy when she is around you
- You have less of an emotional connection with her
- Conversations with her seem strained and contrived
- She is more argumentative and critical for no reason
Actions
- She has sex with you less than she used to
- She takes a shower straight away when arriving home
- She does not talk about her love for you any more
- She flirts with other guys
- Her eyes often drift to other guys
- You are told she is cheating
- You are shown photos of her with another guy
- She no longer tells you about her day
- She does not talk about plans for the future with you
- She tries to make you jealous in order to get your attention
- She starts new interests or hobbies that you did not expect
- She leaves earlier or arrives home later than she used to
- She gets called into work at odd times or works late
- She goes on many business trips
Giveaways
- She smells like a guy
- She comes home with a guys shirt on that is not yours
- Her friends get your name wrong
- Your feelings tell you that she is being unfaithful
- You have enough time without her to read internet pages like this one
- You start looking online for signs of a cheating girlfriend
What do you think? Do you know of other possible signs?
How to Write an Online Dating Profile
I am sure that you have heard of the saying "first impressions last". In the world of online dating, this is certainly true. Your profile makes the first impression and is the difference between having a chance and having no chance at all.
The profile that you put up on a dating site is the first glimpse that potential partners have of you. It describes you in the best way you can. You may try to make yourself sound smart, funny or fun. While they are reading your profile they will be deciding if you are what they are looking for. If is your job to make sure that they like what they read. A good profile should get people contacting you, you should not have to contact them.
There is really only one rule when writing online dating profiles that you should follow. Never follow any "How to write an online dating profile" articles, do not copy ideas from other profiles and do not even consider listing your hobbies. All of these things mean that your profile will be the same as everyone else. When you are writing your profile, you want to be different. If you are into cooking, put in your favourite recipe, if you are into cars say what the best brand is. Just never ever write a profile as people would expect you to.
Even after you have written your online dating profile, you need to make sure that everything is up to date. Every few weeks or months you need to come back to your profile and update it. This may mean deleting the things that you no longer do and adding new items.
Learn About Free Dating Websites
The online dating industry has become very large in recent years, with many sites now out there. It is now one of the most popular ways to meet online with tens of thousands of couples finding love though online dating sites. In today's digital age, many people just do not have the time to actively look for a date. This is where the online dating sites help. They make the dating process quicker by allowing you to weed out the people who are not suitable though questions like "Do they smoke?".
Online dating sites strive to make meeting the person of your dreams as simple as possible. Features such as emailing you when you have a match, rating a person against your match criteria and profiles allow you to quickly find the type of person you are looking for.
The first step towards online dating is to search for free dating sites. Although all the dating sites would like to pay money for access or extra features, there is no reason to do so. Free websites allow you to do everything you need to do.
The next step is to find a free online dating site that suits your tastes. There are many sites out there to suit a wide range of people. Have a look around and you will see that some will suit you better than others. One you have found a site you like, sign up to it.
After you have signed up, you want to set up your profile and submit a picture. The profile and picture are important as they help others to find more about you and give others something to start a conversation with. When searching for potential matches, do not set your match criteria to specific. Keep an open mind and if a date does not work out see if you can become friends. Girls like to play "match maker" and get their male friends going with their female friends.
Online Dating Don'ts
Online dating opens up many possibilities. The social opportunities that it provides means that it can lead to friendship, happiness, love and marriage. It is based on the idea that people can use messaging to establish a relationship with another person that has a foundation of trust and love (or lust). There are something that you should not do with online dating.
Although online dating is a great way to meet people that you can latter meet with in-person, you do not want to be giving your details to every Tom, Dick and Harry. It is not safe to hand out your phone number, street name or address to someone until you feel that you have started to get to know them. No harm would come from even not disclosing your name until the second or third email. This gives the other person a sense of achievement once they get it. Say anonymous for as long as possible. Most people have had a failed relationship in their past. You should not talk about your last relationship online though. To do so shows that you are not over your last relationship and gives people the idea they they are just there for you to vent your frustration on.
Make sure that you do not just say what you do not want. People do not like reading negative messages as much as they do positive ones. Try to focus on your positive side and prefer to talk about your strengths rather than your weaknesses. People do not like others who brag. It is OK to state your situation and say that you are rich, famous and handsome but do so without bragging. The one thing that you should not do most of all is lie. If you did have a chance of getting the other person to meet you or get to know you better, a lie such as using someone else's photo can screw your chances.
Choosing an Online Dating Service
There are a lot of online dating services available on the net, and they all cater for different people. You have an unlimited choice of dating sites to use, so how do you pick? You need to consider the key points.
What type of relationship are you looking for?
Everything that you are looking for is out there, but you just need to know what you are looking for. There are many different dating sites that cater for quite different markets. Are you looking for:
- Casual dates
- Friends
- Serious relationship
- Potential mate
- Long-term relationship
- Sex
What is your current situation?
There are not just single people dating online. Depending of your current situation, you may be better to find a site that has more people in your situation. Are you:
- Single
- Married
- In a relationship
- In an open relationship
- Divorced
- Widower
You may also be in a more specific situation, such as:
- Single parent
- Jewish
- Jewish single parent
- Kiwi
- Kiwi single parent
You many even be looking for something that you do not find on mainstream sites such as:
- Cheating spouse
- Transmitted disease
- Loving BBW
Hobbies
What do you like to do. There are many sites that are dedicated to people who like similar activities and hobbies. If you find someone that has a similar hobby to you, you are more likely to click with them.
Will you spend money?
If you are quite serious you might have to spend money. If not, you might find a free site. Just remember that you find different types of people on free and paid sites.
Paid sites tend to attract the people that are serious about dating and meeting the people that they want. You are more like to find people that will meet you off line. Another benefit of paid dating sites is that they often verify that the person is who they say they are.
Free sites tend to attract people that are just looking to have fun. Often people found on them have no intention of dating or getting serious. Free sites always have more advertisements and often have paid only features.
Before you do join up with a paid dating site, make sure that you look for a trial. This will give you an idea what type of people you will find on the site before you hand over your money.
I would have to recommend that you experiment and try out a free dating site and a paid dating site. You really need to decide for yourself. Most dating sites are very cheap anyway and you will not be losing very much money if you do not find the woman of your dreams.
Summary
Before you join up to a dating site you need to know what you are wanting to achieve. There are so many people out there looking for many different things and you need to know what you want. Just get out there and try things out. You may find the girl of your dreams, your best friend or your soul mate.
First Impressions
The first impression is the most important stage of dating. In a few minutes a girl can get a rough idea of your personality, gauge how shy you are, notice if sex is on your mind and be able to decide if she likes you.
From the moment you enter the girls notice the way you walk and how you stand. They also notice if you greet any friends or stand by yourself. All these things help her to judge your character; They can all help towards your success or failure at making an impression.
Girls can detect if you are shy and nervous. If you make many glances at the floor or stutter on your words, she will get a feeling that you are nervous. You need to know what you are going to say and make sure you do not appear nervous.
Another skill that the girls have is counting the number of times you look at her body and her face. If you continually glance at her body and do not look at her face when you are talking, she will get the idea that you just want sex. For some girls this may be all right, but for most this can mean instant failure for you.
Even what you wear can have an impact on the success of your first impression. You need to make sure that you have clean / tidy nails, well groomed facial hair, tidy haircut, clothes that fit you well and that you are dressed for the occasion.
Although you do not want a girl that is just after your money, it helps to flash a bit of money. This can be done in many ways from buying anything but the cheapest or let her peek at the notes in your wallet. The one thing that you do not want to do is pay with small coins and show her that you use the lowest currency denomination.
Does Your Ex-girlfriend Still Want You?
Your a guy who has just gone through a breakup and had your heart broken. The first thing that you really want to know is if she still loves you and is willing to let you back into her life. If you have been in a few relationships, you will know that girls have a way of saying one thing but meaning another. If you look at the following three signs, you will be a few steps closer to getting her back.
Before we get started you need to think about what may have gone wrong in the relationship and could have caused you and her to break up. You need to sort through all the issues that caused problems in your relationship. You may need to make an apology or two if you have done something wrong.
Sign number one: She still communicates with you
If you send her an email or ring her and she can not help but reply, you know that there is still something between you and her. When she does not answer your emails and does not answer when you ring, then you may have a bigger problem. If you can get a conversation going with her and she does not try to get rid of you, there is still a chance that you can win her back.
Sign number two: She is willing to meet up with you
When she agrees to meet up with you, it is a sign that there is quite a good chance of you and her getting back together. This means that she is not repulsed by you and still enjoys your company.
Even if she is starting to see or date someone else, a meeting with her show you that she is still willing to give you a chance. You need to make sure that you use this chance to prove yourself to her. You need her to leave feeling well romanced and that you still love her.
Sign number three: Flirting and the way she looks at you
If she still looks at you with a smile on her face and a twinkle in her eye, you know that she still wants you back. Flirting with you on any level instantly means that she wants you back.
She may not say yes straight away, but if she shows these three signs you know that she still wants you.
Living Together
Moving in with a partner and living together is something that people do not tend to think about. When things do not run smoothly it can cause problems in your relationship. Fixing things later can also raise questions from your partner. Here are some items that you need to think through
Your partner and you should think about money and how you are going to pay the bills. Who is going to be in charge of paying the bills? Will you both pay equal shares? Will you each pay from your own accounts or will you have a joint account that you both pay money into?
Although most people think that moving in together means sleeping in the same bed, this does not have to be the case. You can decide to sleep in the same bed as your partner or different beds. Different bedrooms could also be an option.
One partner will need more personal space than the other. Make sure that you both have somewhere to go to be alone and do not spend every waking moment together. Too much time together can give feelings of being smothered and overwhelmed. You do not have to watch TV together and you each need some activity that does not involve the other.
You will never realise the cleaning habits of your partner until you start to live together. Before you move in together, you need to be aware of who keeps things clean and who does not. Some agreement might need to be made to make sure that both your partner and you pulls their weight. An easy way to do thing is to agree on who does what jobs.
Living together demands more privacy and trust. Your partner needs to have the right to privacy without you feeling like you can not trust them. There will be some things that your partner does not want to share with you and you need to trust them that those things will not offend you if you found out.
When you move in, you will need to buy some furniture that is to both your partners and your liking. Also, you will need to agree on what will happen to these types of items if you did split apart later in the future.
Why You Need Her Phone Number
It seems to be so basic, but it is often the point where most guys fail. In the heat of the moment, many guys are too involved in admiring the new girl they met to think straight. You must have been in this situation when someone is so good looking that they take your breath away.
After a few hours with her and a good night out, everyone decides to call it a night and part ways. You say "See you latter" and she disappears into the night. It takes a moment or so for you to click, but you realise that without having some of her contact information you will never see her again. Your dream girl will only ever be a dream girl from now on.
When you find a girl that you really like and that you get along with, you need to make sure that you can meet up with her in the future. For this to happen, there needs to be some exchange of contact details and a way for you to contact her.
There are many types of contact details that you could exchange. Email addresses, postal addresses, address to where you live or even a place you can often be found hanging out. The phone number is the most important one.
A phone number is special as it allows for you to make more of a connection than any other type of indirect communication like email. As she can hear your voice, it seems that she can associate you voice with memories of you. An email however could have been written by anyone and is quite impersonal.
You can not give your number to the girl and rely on her to call you. Girls want guys to call first. If the girl does call first, you will find out later that she is likely to be high maintenance. Just think about it, she already misses you and wants to talk to you.
All you have to do is make sure that you get her phone number before you part ways. This will mean that you can arrange a date later when you have had a chance to clear your head.
3 Tips to improve your flirting
Everyone has to start somewhere and when it comes to flirting, some people are more natural at it than others. This does not mean that you can not learn it though. This article will take you through a few tips to improve your flirting.
The first thing that you have to remember when flirting it that you have to smile. A smile says so much when you are meeting someone. It instantly tells the other person what you think about them, if you are happy around them and if you are bored. When you start to flirt with someone, you need to make sure that you are smiling and look as if you are having a good time.
The second most important aspect of flirting is physical contact. Physical contact has the ability to make the target of your flirting more comfortable with you. It can also make you seem less shy and more decisive. Physical contact can range from holding hands, hugging, a small kiss on the cheek to anything more.
The last thing that you have to remember is to play around and have fun. Flirting is all about showing off and building a connection. Having fun is the best way to do this. Try to make them laugh.
You know when your flirting is going well when they initiate physical contact with you in a way that does not show anger or discontent.
7 ideas to start conversations
Attracting women and getting them to talk to you is easy if you know how to use conversation starters. Conversation starters work well to get women attracted enough to indulge in a conversation with you.
Small talk is a great way to attract women. With the right conversation starters, you can get a woman to be attracted enough to start a conversation with you. Here are some quick ideas for conversation starters.
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The best way to start a conversation is to have a smile, make eye contact and say “Hi”.
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If you see a girl reading a book, tell her that you are interested in it too and ask her what she thinks about it. Try to get her to talk about her favourite character.
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Do not start a conversation with a complement that she is expecting or that someone else might say. You want to appear different.
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Try to determine what she would expect from another guy and never do the same. Being different is the key to making a great impression.
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Ask her what the time is. This is a well known opening line, but it still works. If you think that you can pull of a cocky attitude and want her to know that you are flirting with her, try asking her the time when she can see your cellphone.
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Ask her for directions to where you want to go. Just say that you are a bit lost and would she mind giving you some directions. When she says yes, you can ask for directions to any random place or even ask for directions to her place.
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Say something unexpected. You want her to stop giving you the same canned responses that everyone else gets.
Things a Russian Woman Dislikes
When you are dating a Russian woman they will be analyzing you based on few of their preconceived ideas. There are various things that a Russian single can dislike. There was a survey done by a Russian social magazine to find out what they dislike most in their man. There were around 25 characteristics that they disliked.
Here are the top habits that Russian women dislike. This will make you know what a Russian woman likes and what she dislikes. This will obviously help you to woe your woman.
1. Arrogant behavior: a Russian woman will never accept an arrogant behavior from their man. You may be the most handsome or richest man in the world, you brag about it and she will dislike it. You may be superior in any kind but if you boast about it you will surely score less in front of a Russian woman. So better keep your boast to bare minimum in front of them.
2. Cheating: feel yourself lucky if you have wooed a Russian woman’s heart. However, if you want to remain in her heart never think of cheating on her. If she gets to know that you are cheating on her she will not only lose her trust, she will also kick you out of her life. They are very possessive about their man and hate men who cheat on their wives or partners. For then sexual cheat and being emotionally unfaithful will mean the same. Always maintain a borderline behavior so as to avoid any mistrust.
3. Self-Centered Behavior: a Russian woman or any woman in the world dislikes a man with self centered nature. Always give preference to your women or you can come into their bad books. She doesn’t like men thinking that they are the most important thing in the world especially when they know that they are the fairer sex.
4. Disrespectful Behavior: respect is something that a Russian woman cannot compromise on. For them cheating, name calling , talking about them behind their back, lying , being rude or thinking females to be a sexual object all these constitute of being disrespectful. They want a treatment that a man think is appropriate for them. Basically they want treat them as you liked to be treated.
5. Men with always sex in their mind: we all know that male think about sex more than a female. Even if females think about sex they do not always like expressing it. This is the reason they do not like men who constantly show their sexual desire. Same is with Russian women; in fact they would hate to converse about sex in her first few meeting. They need time to come in terms with a sexual relationship with any man. Men who talk or write much about sex in their initial relationships are considered creepy perverts by Russian women.
6. Lazy men: Russian women are very hard working and independent kind of females. They hate to see lazy men. They always have soft corner for men who are ambitious and enthusiastic. If you think that you can sit ideally on a couch and watch TV in front of a Russian wife then forget it. They like men who are adventurous, exercise their body regularly, visit friends and do well in their career.
7. Lying men: truth is very important to Russian women. They hate to hear lies from their men. For them lying is a punishable offence and sign of disrespect. Never ever lie about your profession, your income, your family status or anything related to your combined life. Men tend to lie about their profession if they find that popular profession will impress their woman. You will do this once to impress once but will regret life long when your woman gets to know the truth.
8. Shabby appearance: Russian women are very prim and proper and they dress up very neatly. So they hate to see their men dirty, unkempt, or shabbily dressed. They like men shaved, clean and in nice outfit. Better note this next time you go on a date with Russian woman.
Russian women know well enough what kind of a man they dream about. So, learn the things Russian women dislike before dating them.
Improve memory and recall with sleep
As you have so much to do, you start to sleep 6 hours a night. Little do you know, an 8 hour sleep could leave you with a better memory and improved recall.
Memorising things is hard. Through out or lives we are trying to memorise everything from events and history to exam answers and a plan for the future. Many students will spend all night trying to remember key facts for exams. It is ironic to think that sleep has such a large effect on memory and learning. All the students that spend all nighters to memorise answers may be doing more damage and be more forgetful than those who get a good nights sleep instead.
For insomniacs it may be sobering news that not only does a lack of sleep affect the memory and recall of exams answers, but also the memory of faces, sceneries, experiences, procedures, and many other things. Our memory of procedural and skills could be the most important and is also the most affected by sleep.
In order to counteract the effects of sleep, people drink coffee. Coffee has caffeine which helps to reduce the feeling of tiredness. The problem with coffee and ultimately caffeine is that all it is doing is masking the symptoms of a lack of sleep. It does not help to improve memory, recall or learning.
When you sleep, your brain tries to sort out all the memories and information from the previous day and file them for future retrieval. It goes through a process called memory consolidation. It is during this process that short-term memories from the day are set as long-term memories.
It is only after a 6 hour period of memory stabilization that memory consolidation occurs. This means that a 6 hour sleep will not have as much of an effect on your memory as an 8 hour sleep would.
Some Positive Thinking Techniques
Positive Thinking is a thought process that enables you to obtain desired results with the right actions. It is an act that allows you to embrace affirmative thoughts, thus guiding your deeds or actions in a willful manner. Your feelings, your speech and your actions express themselves to convert your thoughts into results.
While we use this expression 'Positive Thinking' quite often, we hardly take a moment to understand the use of it for our benefit. Without understanding the right meaning or definition, we will not be able to identify whether the “thinking” is positive or negative.
It appears to be very easy in conversing this term, or even recommending to others this worthy suggestion of thinking positive, but the practicality of putting it to use needs endless determination. The options rest with you to switch on or off the kind of thought process you are guided through. A very determined and consistent effort is essential to work on it.
Being positive opens your minds door to thoughts and ideas which enables your growth and success. It guides and motivates you to work towards obtaining favourable results, thus creating joy and happiness in your life.
Let us consider some steps towards positive thinking
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Begin by being sure of your goals and passionately wanting to achieve it. Unless you like what you want to do, no amount of motivation will make you think in the right direction.
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Move around with successful people. Be seen with them. Even if you have to spend something extra, it is worth being in restaurants or coffee shops where the successful people move about.
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Read motivational stories and article contributions from successful people. Attend lectures on such subjects.
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Give compliments liberally and accept compliments graciously.
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Accept responsibility for your actions. If negativity creeps into your mind, learn to mentally crumple them and fling it outside your window. Subconsciously see it flying off far into the distant unknown.
It is also very important to pay attention to your self talk as this will strengthen or weaken your subconscious mind. Keep fighting with your negative thoughts and shift your mind to more worthy and success oriented habits. Always keep anticipating success, good results, joy, happiness and good health. Make positive thinking, a way of life.
In the words of Abraham Lincoln, “We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
Why submit articles (and ignore Google)
Getting your articles read is the most important step. For years submitting articles was all about getting a website to rank higher in Google. Now that Google has reduced the importance of such articles in website rankings, an opportunity has opened up for savvy marketers.
Visitors not links
Getting your article read is important as it is about getting people interested in what you are selling, your ideas or encouraging them to seek you out for more. A great article will leave the reader wanting more. Even without a link, they will notice your name or business name at the bottom of the article and seek you out.
Hidden effect
The issue with this is that it is hard to track with analytics tools like Google Analytics. If visitors see your brand name or personal name, but not a link, they might Google for your site. You will not be able to tell that they looked for your site after reading one of your articles.
Brand name
Writing such articles will definitely help establish your brand name. Even if people do not visit your site, they will remember the name. If they visit your site later, they may not remember where they heard your name, but they will be more confident that your site is legitimate and a good site to buy from.
Site fit
Sometimes articles do not fit well with your site. It is not a good idea to be seen making bad comments about the competitor’s site. If you know of issues with the competitors’ products or services, make this known by publishing an article about it on another site under another name. Just make sure the issues are legitimate as you do not want to be recognised by the competition.
Where to submit articles
This site is accepting articles now. Just head over to the submission form, and submit your article. Be careful when submitting your article to other sites as some sites will remove your brand or by-line.
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