I was talking/chatting online and my mates were talking about a dating website they had been on. One of them did not seem to have any luck and the other tried to help.

Bob:
Are you meeting many people off this dating website?

Sam:
Some. Why?

Bob:
Just wondering if anyone is actually having success.

Sam:
Are you getting any phone numbers at all?

Bob:
A few, but the conversations do not seem to go much further.

Sam:
What is the first thing you do when you get their cellphone/mobile number?

Bob:
Well, I usually text them so they know my phone number.

Sam:
And then what do you do? normally?

Bob:
Just text them a few times, give them a call about Thursday to find out what they are doing in the weekend.

Sam:
Just hang with me here, and I will see what the difference of what you do and what I do is... So what happens between you ringing them and them not replying?

Bob:
Usually ring on Thursday, then they usually text back and say they have had a better offer and dont hear back

Sam:
A better offer? So do you go for the ones that want a one night stand or go for the ones that want a relationship? (are they looking for friendship/relationships/sex or love?)

Bob:
I just message anyone.

Sam:
Well the tips I would offer you are:

• The girls that just want sex get so many messages that there is no point messaging them.
• You seem way too eager. They find that a turn off, or something like that.
• Slow down
• You need to try and be cocky/funny. Avoid most personal questions about yourself with some un-serious response.
• Do not ask them too many questions!

Just because they gave you their phone number, doesn't mean that you need to give them yours straight away. If you send them a text with in the same week, they see that you are eager. If you don't use their phone number at all, they will wonder what mistake they made. People want what they can't have. If they know they can easily have you, then you are not what they want most.

Lastly - Go for a long term relationship... The girls like that more and you don't have to keep looking all the time.